People Who Judge Others

All of us, even those of us who don’t want to judge people, do. It is a cultural phenomenon for all of humanity. Unfortunately it is integrated into our make-up and psyche. It will take intentional recovery for all of us, the ones who do judge and those of us who try not to.

Pick an area in which you often judge others: at parties, at the gym, sitting around a coffee bar or nightclub, maybe gossip at work. You know where it is you do the most harm to others AND to yourself by saying negative, judgmental comments. Pick one area, don’t think about the other areas while trying to give up judgmental attitudes. Pick an area and STOP judging people. Maybe if you can successfully stop judging people there, you can stop judging people most of the time.

Today, Nina McCollum wrote a guest column in Huffpost, “What I’ve Learned About Unemployment And Being Poor After Applying For 215 Jobs. Articulate and thoughtful, she conveyed the realities of being poor. I loved her last words, because she hit the heart of the issue of judging poor people.

If you’re lucky enough not to have to worry about where your next meal is coming from or how you’ll keep a roof over your head, stop judging and demonizing poor people. The daily hell of poverty is hard enough.